Cooking, dining, and advice magazine has a wedding advice column, so I will also be offering up an alternative answer to Peggy Post's "Well-Mannered Wedding" column. This week Peggy offers advice on spouses attending weddings. How ironic?
If Anything, an Invitation to Talk
I recently received a wedding invitation for myself but not my spouse. We have been married for 25 years. I have known the bride since she was born. She is my best friend’s daughter.
Do you think this is proper? I am very hurt by this.
Oh get over yourself. Just bring along your spouse and there will be tons of fun to be had (either in a good or a bad way). Or since this is your best friend, just ask her. I seriously wonder if she is your best friend if asking her was not your first reaction.
Maintain Your Inclusive List
We are having a small wedding, inviting only 70 people. We sent save-the-date cards six months before the wedding.
We are not particularly close with one couple, my fiancé’s fraternity brother, but decided to send them a save the date/invite them anyway because we were invited to their wedding. A month later we received an e-mail announcing that Bruce will now be living his life as Betty. He and his wife have since separated.
Because we sent a save-the-date I know that etiquette says we need to invite Bruce/Betty. Betty is clearly a man dressing as a woman and with such a small wedding Betty will stick out. My fiancé’s family is very religious and will not approve of Betty, which I’m afraid could cause a scene. Should we still invite Betty? What about his wife?
Yes. Please place a camera on Betty and upload people's reactions to the internet.